Facebook: The New Prayer Chain

Remember the church prayer chain? Many churches around North America still have active prayer chain ministries. For those who think a prayer chain is a piece of jewelry, let me enlighten you.

A prayer chain consists of a group of volunteers who agree to pray for prayer requests as they are submitted by church members. Prayer requests are directed to the person at the top of the "chain" (usually the leader of the prayer chain ministry.) He or she then delivers that prayer request to a small group of individual volunteers (in the "olden days" this occurred by telephone.) Each of those individuals then delivers that same request to a group of individual volunteers underneath him/her, and so on until everyone in the prayer chain ministry has received the request. It's a fast way to get multiple people (dozens or even hundreds) interceding in prayer on behalf of one person. (Think "Pyramid Scheme," except in this version you get prayed for instead of ripped off.)

My church has a very active prayer ministry, though it's a little less formal than an organized "prayer chain," and probably a lot faster than the old-fashioned telephone variety. Prayer requests can be submitted to a staff, board or prayer team member. These three groups of people work closely together to ensure that each of the other groups knows that a prayer request has been made, and most of the communication is done by email, which tends to be faster, less invasive, and more reliable than the phone prayer chain.

My husband and I recently experienced a whole new twist on the good old-fashioned prayer chain. A couple of weeks ago my middle child came down with what appeared to be a pesky but tenacious virus. It turned out to be parvo-virus, a garden variety flu-type bug that strikes just about everyone on the planet during childhood.

Parvo-virus is normally little more than a nuisance. What differentiates it from other flu-like viruses is that it attacks the bone marrow and temporarily halts the production of red blood cells.

Human beings normally make a surplus of red blood cells for just such times as these. However, my two sons happen to have hereditary spherocytosis, an inherited blood disorder which inhibits the proper production of red blood cells. The cells that are produced are the wrong shape (spherical instead of round) and subject to attack by the spleen, which thinks they are foreign substances and therefore wipes out many of them. So parvo-virus can be deadly for my two boys.
My son got very ill very quickly, and ended up needing an emergency blood transfusion and hospital stay.

As I threw together an overnight bag so that I could accompany my son to the hospital, I quickly posted a request for prayer on Facebook. To my surprise, hundreds of people knew within hours of my son's admittance to the hospital and had already prayed for Joshua's recovery. And not just locals either.... people from all over Canada and the United States were praying for my son before he'd even drained the first of two bags of blood that he needed.

I couldn't help but marvel at this modern twist on the prayer chain. This is not intended to be an endorsement for Facebook (though I admit that I am slightly addicted to it.) I am also aware that Facebook has been misused, abused and employed as a tool to promote all sorts of insidious ideas and causes and has even served to destroy the careers and reputations of people (even Christians.) But Facebook, when used wisely, can also be a tremendous tool for the church in general, and for individual Christians, particularly in times of need as I so recently came to discover.

As it turned out, Joshua graciously shared his virus with his little brother Josiah (now why can't I get them to share toys?) and a week later we found ourselves in a re-run except with a different child. Once again we turned to Facebook for prayer, and were deeply rewarded to find so many friends praying for us and encouraging us, even people that we haven't seen in years. I am exceedingly grateful for this contemporary twist on the prayer chain.

Building Bridges

For the last two years or so, my children and I have watched with fascination as a massive suspension bridge has been built just up river from where we live. Its impressive spans and vaulting cables can be seen towering above centuries-old groves of trees that line either side of the river over which it crosses, linking two major communities together that were once joined only by a quaint but slow and inconvenient ferry system.

Every time we would drive by this work in progress, we would observe the latest additions to the structure and comment on how the bridge was taking shape. Sometimes it seemed as though nothing visible was being accomplished for days at a time, even though dozens and dozens of workers were always present. Other times it was as though whole sections of bridge would appear seemingly overnight, as if bridge fairies had visited in the wee hours of the morning.

We also marveled at the various aspects of bridge building that were surprising to us. One day we drove by and noticed piles and piles of giant bricks with nubs on the sides. This excited my boys greatly: "They look just like giant Legos, Mom!" Turns out, they were made from styrofoam. Who knew bridges can be built with styrofoam?

The last several months have been the most exciting to watch, as more and more spans were added from each end, until they finally met near the middle and the last piece was dropped in. After years of building, the bridge is complete and will open to the public in less than a month.

Every time I drive by that bridge, I can't help but think of all that goes into building bridges. Over two years of work, and that doesn't even include the years and years of planning that go into such an effort. It's a remarkable thing to begin with an idea, and years later finally see all those plans and all of the work culminate into a suspension bridge that will stand for decades (maybe even centuries) and see the passage of billions and billions of vehicles over its length.

In fact, it reminds me an awful lot of ministry in general, and church ministry in particular. After all, isn't this what we're all doing in all of our churches all over the world? Ministry is all about building bridges. Whether professional or lay ministers, we work at building bridges between parents and children, children and adults, teens and adults, teens and their peers, old and young, husbands and wives, couples, ethnic groups, Christians and non-Christians, mature Christians and new, "baby" Christians.... and the list goes on and on.

Building bridges in our churches doesn't happen overnight either. Much as our Golden Ears bridge has been years in the making, it takes time to build bridges in our churches. It's easy as leaders (professional or otherwise) to get discouraged because, let's face it: sometimes it seems that little or no progress is being made. We often bump up against hurdles that seem to set progress back. It's easy to feel like "throwing in the towel" and walking away from a half-built bridge in frustration.

Watching this bridge go from a concept to a grand suspension bridge that will link two communities together and vastly change the way we travel, recreate and do business has been a powerful visual object lesson and reminder to me that bridges are not built overnight. Instead, when they are discussed, planned, designed with purpose, and built with proper care and due attention (including working through the inevitable glitches) they become a thing of awe and a beacon for and symbol of change, progress and brand new relationships.

"[I am confident] that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day that Jesus Christ returns." Philippians 1:6

Three Easy Ways that the Church Can Help Strengthen the Pastor's Marriage

Pastor Kevin Martineau of Port Hardy Baptist Church (my husband and I go back to Bible college days with him and his wife) recently returned from the Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Conference in New York City. He shares some of his thoughts about his and his wife's experiences there in his blog, Shooting the Breeze. I found his thoughts not only intriguing, but also realized that many of his experiences trying to balance marriage with ministry were eerily similar to mine and my husband's own experiences.

Ministry can be very hard on a marriage, which doesn't seem logical considering Christian ministry and Christian marriage both supposedly center around the same thing (Jesus Christ.) And yet my husband and I can attest to this fact, having been in both marriage and ministry for almost 17 years now.

Shepherding a flock (whether big or small or somewhere in between) can take a toll on the Pastor and his wife. It can be exhausting both physically and emotionally to spend ten or twelve hours a day (let's face it... I don't know many pastors who work eight hour days. Do you?) ministering to the needs of others, and then somehow find the emotional energy to come home and connect with your spouse. Throw in kids on top of that, and you have the perfect recipe for marriage burnout.

If it's true, as Pastor Kevin suggests, that a church is only as healthy as the marriage(s) of its pastor(s), I think it stands to reason that the church is in a prime position to benefit a great deal from helping to nurture those marriages. So what, exactly, can the church do to help ensure that its pastor's marriage thrives?

Seventeen years in ministry has by no means made us marriage experts (and believe me, we've had our share of marital struggles,) but it has given us some very good insight into how a church can encourage its pastor(s) to have good marriage(s.) Here are just a few of those insights:

1) Don't phone the pastor on his day off. Nothing short of death or near-death is so critical that it can't wait until tomorrow. Most pastors take only one full day off per week. This has been the case for us ever since my husband entered full-time ministry, and has been the case for every single other pastor we have ever worked with. Even pastors who are fortunate enough to get two days off in a week need to really be able to escape the workplace. Many pastors devote those days off to spending time with their spouses, since it's often the only one they have together in a week. Parishioners should recognize this and save their business for the next workday so that the pastor can feel as though he can put work aside and focus fully on his spouse.

2) Respect his desire to maintain balance. In many churches the pastor is expected to be a part of most or even all of the goings-on at the church. There's a good chance he's already out several nights per week on church affairs. Don't add another night onto his plate if it means he'll be sacrificing time with his wife and family. Running at a breakneck pace without any chance to connect during the week can leave a pastor exhausted and his wife frustrated, neither of which is conducive to marital bliss.

3) Be intentional about seeing that your pastor and spouse get away together. Pastors don't make a lot of money. (Shocking, isn't it?) Sometimes it's difficult for the pastor and his wife to budget for a dinner out, let alone a weekend away together. Trust me when I tell you that the best gifts my husband and I have been given by our congregations over the years are those that came in the form of dinner gift certificates and paid-for weekend getaways. (When our kids were little these often came with offers of free babysitting.) Just a couple of these kinds of gifts each year can make a gigantic difference in the relationship of the pastor and his wife. (Try sending them to a marriage enrichment conference for double the bang for your buck.)

These really are easy and relatively painless ways to show your pastor and his wife that you care about their marriage. The dividends that the church will receive in return far outweigh any cost (financial or otherwise) incurred.

Read Pastor Kevin's thoughts on maintainting an emotionally healthy marriage: "As Goes the Pastor's Marriage, So Goes the Church."

The Value of Mentorship

Recently I was talking with a friend about the idea of mentoring relationships: what that looks like, and why mentoring is important. I'm not sure if she realized it, but I actually considered her a "mentor," and I value her wisdom and maturity as much as I do her friendship.

When you think of the word "mentor," what kinds of images come to mind? The picture that usually jumps into my mind initially looks something like a young Luke Skywalker conversing with Yoda.... old (and by old, I mean REALLY old. Elderly old. White hair, gray wispy beard OLD) imparting wise sayings to a young charge over a cup of herbal tea ("Size matters not, ... Look at me. Judge me by size, do you?”) and generally being boring with one another. Maybe the occasional Light Sabre match. But overall, BORING.

Is that what mentoring is really all about? I suppose there is much to be learned by sitting at the feet of one who emulates Socrates and listening to wise sayings all day long. But I think sometimes Christians make mentoring too complicated. Mentoring doesn't have to be about Bible study (though I'm certainly not knocking Bible studies.) What mentoring should be about is friendship.

About a year ago my husband and I took a course on marriage mentoring. The basic philosophy of this particular program is that married couples need mentors in the way of another married couple who is more experienced at marriage, that is, who have been married longer. The program encourages these "experienced" couples to get together with a newly married couple on a regular basis, not for Bible study or to discuss philosophy, but just to talk. To hang out, have coffee, talk about what married life is like, bounce questions and ideas off one another.

Mentors in this particular program didn't have to be Bible scholars, nor were they expected to know all the answers. They are simply asked to befriend and listen.

I think THAT is what mentoring is really about. Whether it's marriage mentoring, or mentoring in general, it's not about mentors having all the answers or being perfect Christians. It's about sharing one's own greater experience with someone less experienced.

I have a number of mentors in my own life who are older than I am, some just a few years older, others who are decades more experienced at life than I. In fact, my best friend is twenty years older than I am, and I cherish her as both a friend and a mentor. I don't know if she realizes how smart she is, and I know that she doesn't "know it all," but I value her life experiences and treasure her willingness to share those experiences with me (both the good and the bad.)

I believe I've grown a great deal under her "counsel," which usually consists of us chatting over a cup of coffee or taking a walk together. It's nothing complicated, and often we don't even talk about "deep" issues when we're together. Nevertheless, her experience and maturity has definitely enriched my life, even if we're just comparing lasagna recipes or complaining about our husbands' snoring!

I also have relationships where I myself might be considered the mentor. And I know that being on the mentoring end of the relationship is just as rewarding as being the mentoree (is that even a word?) I know I also have a great deal to gain from investing myself in a younger generation. I know that my young friends don't expect me to have all the answers (thank God, because most of the time I'm really, really dumb,) just like I know that MY mentors don't have all the answers. And that's okay with them. Because it's more about listening and caring and less about giving answers.

When I step back and take a look at both those who mentor me, and those whom I mentor, there is a span of three generations between them all. What a simple but powerful way to fulfill God's simple command to "love one another." It amazes me to think about the wealth of experience that is being passed down the chain from the oldest to the youngest. And this pattern is being replicated over and over again, not only in my own church but in the church at large, the worldwide Bride of Christ. Think of how the world could change if everyone had mentor!

Earth Day is Special When you Know the Creator

Earth Day is celebrating its 29th birthday this year. Earth Day was first founded in 1970 by American Senator Gaylord Nelson who hailed from the state of Wisconsin. Nelson was an activist on a number of fronts, including health care and the environment.

The political climate leading up to the first Earth Day, April 22, 1970, was not unlike today's political climate. Concern for the environment was charged with fear, with one major difference: 29 years ago, the great fear was over global cooling.

Nevertheless, Nelson's efforts sparked a movement that has continued for nearly three decades. While interest in Earth Day and its celebrations has waxed and waned during that period, the current political climate has inspired renewed interest in Earth Day and all that it entails. This is likely due in large part to Al Gore's 2006
film An Inconvenient Truth. And while it has since been criticized for some of its faulty reasoning and misguided use of "facts," it has helped to raise a new awareness of this planet on which we reside, and which we must one day leave to our children and grandchildren.

But what should Earth Day mean to Christians and the church? Earth Day has historically been celebrated as a grassroots movement by environmentally-minded organizations and the odd ruling government. One rarely hears of churches making an effort to join in on the front lines of stewardship of our planet.

This is unfortunate, since Earth Day is rife with opportunities for the church to rub shoulders with people in the communities in which they minister. Ordinary citizens are more open to embracing conservation and stewardship now than they have been in twenty years, making it a virtual mission field just waiting to be permeated by those who should know best the value of caring for the earth.

Who better to lead the way in conserving, sustaining and nurturing the planet than those to whom God Himself gave the direct charge? From His very first command to Adam to "...fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves over the ground" (Gen. 1:28) to the reminder in Psalm 115:16 that "The highest heavens belong to the Lord, but the earth He has given to man," to the hundreds of other verses which proclaim the Lord's love for His creation, it's clear that conservation and stewardship are Biblically sound principles.

Of course, man went on to fall from grace, which ultimately made caring for the earth, and in particular, reaping the fruits of the earth, more difficult. This may be all the more reason that the church should be leading the way when in making our planet greener and healthier. We have centuries of earth-abuse and taking for granted God's creation to make up for.

While they are becoming more common, I still see very few churches with recycling bins. Many have them in their offices, but I've seen just a handful with recycling bins in even the main entryway, let alone every room that is used by the public. What a simple way for the church to show care and responsibility for the world that God has so graciously given for us to enjoy!

There are many things that churches can do to set an example and take seriously God's command to care for earth. (And by the way, they can do them all year round, not just on April 22):

*Switch to biodegradable products. Our church recently switched from styrofoam to biodegradable coffee cups. They cost a little bit more than the styrofoam kind, but we estimate that our church will be keeping between twenty-six and thirty thousand styrofoam cups out of our landfill each year.

*Employ water conservation techniques. High-efficiency toilets can save tens of thousands to millions of gallons of water per year, depending on the size of your church. Installing rain barrels keeps rain water from being wasted: use the water they collect to keep the grounds and gardens beautiful without turning on the tap.

*Use blue bins. Even if you can't afford to put them in every room in the building, at least put a few large ones in central, high-traffic areas, rather than just in the office. Then encourage parishioners to keep recyclables out of the church garbage cans.

*Compost organic matter. Think of all those grass clippings and leftovers from church dinners. Compost it all, and then donate it to individual gardeners in the church, or to a local community gardens project. Or, feed the church's flower beds with it.

*Adopt a highway. Many communities in North America have Adopt-a-Highway programs. Your church can join and commit to picking up garbage along a particular stretch of road in your community. The commitment level is usually once per month for a few hours. Your local roads department usually supplies gloves, garbage pick-up sticks, bags and safety gear. This is an excellent way to raise your church's profile in your home community.

There are hundreds of ways your church can become green, reduce its carbon footprint, and shine the light of stewardship in your local community. It's one small way to bring honor and glory "to Him alone who does great wonders, who by His understanding made the heavens, who spread out the earth upon the waters, who made the great lights- the sun to govern the day, the moon and stars to govern the night... His love endures forever!" (From Psalm 136:4-9.) And this year on Earth Day, celebrate the fact that you know the Creator personally.

Supporting the VISIBLE Ministers

When you're involved in a VISIBLE ministry in a church, sometimes you have the opposite problem from those invisible ministers we looked at last week. "Visible" ministers are those whom everyone at church can see, in real time, doing ministry. They are the preachers, teachers, group leaders and worship team musicians. They are the ones who have chosen to take on a position, whether professional or lay, that puts them in something of a spotlight.

While invisible ministers can be hard to pin down ("Boy, I wish I knew who designs all those great advertising posters."), visible ministers can't be ignored. As such, they are often subject to a great deal more criticism than the church's invisible ministers.

Those who minister in positions where they are seen by so many other people do so because God has gifted them specifically to preach, teach, sing, lead, etc. Let's face it: getting up in front of a crowd is not everyone's cup of tea (or coffee, as the case may be.) It takes a special kind of anointing! But even those who enjoy being in front of people get discouraged when others feel that they are justified in doling out criticism, as if "they asked for it."

Here's how you can lend your support to all those "visible ministers" in your own church:

1) Recognize the emotional toll of visible ministry: Even for the most gifted orators, it takes a great deal of emotional energy to get up in front of a group of people and carry out whatever task God has entrusted him or her with. As such, it's best not to catch the pastor immediately after the service to criticize his poor grammar during his sermon. Nor should you comment to the pianist that her timing was off from the rest of the worship band. These kinds of comments are very defeating, and may actually sap what little energy the person has left.

2) Don't sweat the small stuff: If you sat through a compelling Bible study and all you came away with was the thought that the teacher's skirt was too short, you've missed the point. Focus on what's really important. And please, don't talk about her clothing choice with other people!

3) Cut them some slack: Because visible ministry can take such an emotional toll, visible ministers sometimes need to take a break from their ministries. This is okay! Even Jesus got tired and escaped to the hills to pray and find spiritual refreshment. Never criticize a visible minister for "not using his/her gifts." Besides, just because he or she isn't up front any more doesn't mean he or she isn't still serving somewhere.

4) Don't put visible ministers on a pedestal: People who serve as teachers and preachers and in various other public ministries are no different than anyone else in the church. They hurt sometimes. They get tired. And they even stumble. They're as human as every other church member.

And by all means, offer verbal thanks and encouragement. A word of thanks can be all it takes to restore that lost emotional energy.

Supporting the "Invisible Ministers"

These "Invisible Ministers" that I speak of are not super-heroes with the power to disappear at will. But I often think they are the real "super-heroes" of the church. The invisible ministers are the ones that the church at large almost never sees and rarely hears. They are the ones who do some of the hardest, most tedious and monotonous jobs around the building, in worship services and at gatherings.

The invisible ministers are the people who get up early and get to church on Sunday before everyone else so that they can make the coffee. They are the ones who volunteer to climb the scaffolding at every spring cleaning bee to polish the stained glass windows in the sanctuary. They are the ladies who spend hours each week cutting shapes out of construction paper for the Sunday School children's craft. They are the men who replace the worn and broken ceiling tiles in the church social hall.

Sometimes we church-goers put a lot of stock in our VISIBLE ministers: the ones who sing or play an instrument on a worship team, the preachers, the teachers, the leaders, the movers and the shakers. And of course, their roles are extremely important. But often we get so caught up in the visible that we forget about the invisible.

Imagine fellowship times without coffee or clean dishes. Imagine trying to entertain Sunday School children for an hour without a craft to put together. What would it be like if nobody shoveled the walkway to the front doors? What if no one ever pruned the rose bushes or planted new marigolds in the spring? What if communion ceased because no one volunteered to fill the communion cups or prepare the bread? All of these roles are equally important in the church at large. And it is these volunteers who get the least thanks for their roles.

There's a good chance that most of these volunteers don't do what they do in order to get recognition. Some may even prefer to serve "behind the scenes." But a "thank you" is always nice just the same, and may be just the shot of energy that an invisible minister needs to keep on doing what he or she is doing.

Some of the best ways to thank them are also the easiest:

1)Make a point to find out who does a particular job in your church: Next time you're at a potluck, take a minute to personally thank the dishwashers and table setters. If you taste a particularly delicious pastry on a Sunday morning, find out who baked it and let them know how much you enjoyed it. Keep your eyes open and look around: there are probably dozens of little things that have been done during the week by one of those invisible ministers. It might take a little bit of detective work to find out who did what, but you may just make someone's day when you thank them for their contribution to your church.

2)Don't complain: So the coffee is a bit strong. Complaining aloud can be defeating for the person who actually arrived early to make it. Keep negative thoughts and comments to yourself.

The church needs its invisible ministers just as much as its visible ministers. So let them know just how much you appreciate the things that they do!